Pride, Vanity, and the Fall - Part 1

Over the years I have had discussions with many ministers’ wives and the most common consensus from them is what is discussed in this post. Ministers, by and large, are extremely charismatic, and unfortunately, many minister’s wives are some of the most talented enablers. They are the backbone of their husband’s ministries and help them become powerful, successful, adored, and eventually, unfortunately, sometimes demigods. As these ministers have what is termed “a calling from God”, the wives are left to compete with their “all knowingness”.

Sometimes congregations idolize and shower ministers with adulation, adoration, love, money, power, and sometimes even sex. These congregations can see no wrong in these men no matter what they do, and the ministers become the supreme power in the church. Many husbands then demand their wife’s complete and total surrender to “God’s calling” on their husband’s lives. The wife’s total submission and submersion of who she is is needed to make the ministry successful (at least that is what the husbands believe)! Additionally, minister’s wives are sometimes repeatedly and viciously attacked by women in the church. They are loathed and hated by many of these women who are jealous of them. Some husbands offer no help to defend them because they want them with no power. --To be continued...